PND

Found this on MSN.com

Nuptial neurosis
It is meant to be the best
day of your life, but are bride and grooms-to-be are putting themselves under so
much pressure to organise a memorable wedding?
Marriage: it’s a marathon, not
a sprint. But as thousands of newlyweds across the UK return from honeymoons to
begin their life together, a whopping one in ten of them will suffer from
post-nuptial depression (PND).

After the dress has been packed
away, the cake has been scoffed and all the gifts opened, married life starts
for real. But for those unfortunate enough to be afflicted by this modern
condition, the anti-climax that follows the big day is too much to
bear.

PND doesn’t just last for those first few days after
returning from the honeymoon. The condition can in fact continue to dog couples
for months after the big day, leaving them feeling upset, disillusioned,
confused and, in some cases, even asking themselves if getting married in the
first place was the right thing to do.

Back with a bumpWedding
planner Tamryn Kirby, managing director of TK Weddings, said: “PND hits a lot of
couples when they get back from their honeymoon. They have to go back to work
and suddenly, after planning for so long, have nothing to look forward to. It
can be a huge reality check.”

Kirby has first-hand experience of
the condition. “I found myself feeling really down after my wedding and noticed
that some of my clients, after we’ve organised their wedding for them and
contacted them to see how the honeymoon went, actually tell us they too have
felt down after the event. It’s happening more and more and can even hit people
on their wedding day.

“It’s partly because they enjoy the planning
so much. They get so involved in the search for the perfect wedding, then all of
a sudden it is gone and they feel as if something has been taken from
them.”

Kirby also believes high-profile celebrity weddings, like
that of footballer Ashley Cole and girl-band member Cheryl Tweedy, pile extra
pressure on couples. “Brides begin to feel like they are the star,” she says,
“and this gives them unrealistic expectations of what their wedding day will be
like.”

PND stems from the belief that marriage will somehow elevate
couples to a higher and somehow happier state of existence. But the mundane
day-to-day actuality can lead to problems, especially after months of being the
centre of attention and generally indulged and spoiled.

Kirby said:
“Many people find the early months of marriage are full of differences of
opinion. Both partners want to make sure things are right from the start and
often trivial issues get blown out of proportion. You’ve had months of talking
about lovely wedding related things and then you’re back to talking about who’s
doing the ironing and why the toilet seat has been left up. It can be a real
culture shock.

“A lot of couples keep going on sheer adrenaline
before the wedding, when they get to relax they find they are exhausted. An
overstretched immune system can also lead to illness and
depression.”

Think mine is more of Pre-nuptial depression..haha~
I am seriously "asking myself if getting married in the first place was the right thing to do"
Many asked me to 看開...but there's a limit to how much I can 看開.
Till the day I erupt with the bottled anger and bitterness....all is well now~